Tuesday, 13 May 2014

TPE doesn't always mean what you think

So we started this blog at an odd time of year for us.  Traditionally May and June is the time when our household travels to three different science fiction & fantasy conventions.  One in our home city and two out of town and we stay at hotels for all three.  All of this can crank the stress on any relationship up to 10 and a kink/poly one isn't any different. This year to make matters more exciting we have increased the number of conventions from three to five.  As gluttons for punishment/adventure we throw in a bonus trip to Fargo and publish a brand new board game.  So right from the first trip at the start of May we started to look at ways to encourage and develop our TPE, or Travel Power Exchange.

As a household we have a few rules about greetings and things that happen when we return to the house.  So the first thing we did was designate our room as our home.  Any rules that applied to our house would apply to our room, be that in a hotel or when we stay at our publishers house.

We complicate this further by the fact that in my agreement with tamile all aspects of business we are equals and protocols do not come into effect.  So we can go from having a business meeting with publishers or distributors or artists to going to our room to have some private time the switch can be difficult for my girl and also for my baby girl as there is a perceived disparage in how things are done.

In many ways the level of our protocols bounce around all weekend along.  It forces us to learn to adapt to new situations quickly.  We have also found that if we take the time focus on our power exchange from time to time over the weekend those extra moments become that much more special to all of us.  The other thing that we have found helpful at the convention is working on small signs of submission that can be done on and off all through the weekend.  Here are a few quick examples:

  • Pushing buttons as required on elevators and opening doors.
  • Going to get things and run other errands as required
  • The way food and snacks are collected
Well so far so good, we are two trips and and have the next convention this coming weekend.  

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